Secrets of Married Men is the site where men and women come together to learn about what husbands can do to make marriage great, and teach other men how to do it. It’s a place for men to share their successes, their pains, and their advice. It’s a site where you can help learn about the meaning of marriage, and the positive male attributes you bring to your relationship.

How can a man achieve a long and happy marriage? If you’ve been checking out relationship advice columns or seeking the help of a therapist, you may have been looking in the wrong place.

Despite all the advances in brain technology, and all of that we have learned about developmental psychology-- men and women are given the same advice about solving problems: talk together, get in touch with your feelings, and talk some more. But when I ask men about what works for them, I hear a different story.

This website is about their story. About how men use their natural born fix-it skills, their inborn desire to protect and care for their families, and their passion for their wives as the driving force behind saving their marriage.

WHAT ARE THE SECRETS

The first secret is the one that men don’t tell each other. Men who have learned how to be happy in their marriage frequently report that they do it on their own…through trial and error. They’ve needed to apply the skills that make them successful in other walks of life. Secrets of Married Men is a way, at last, for them to share their secrets.

Men also keep secrets from their wives. Can that work in the face of modern marital advice that says: the only road to happiness is to be completely open and honest? Happily married men have learned that there’s a time to speak your mind, and there’s a time to listen. Sometimes good listening means pushing back your own needs, dreams and desires. Many men have said they use a strategy never seen in the advice columns: Learn how to listen, and know when not to talk.

Men don't always solve problems the same way as women. Men can apply the same commitment and devotion to their marriage as they do other aspects of their lives (work or sports, for instance). When they take the positive approach, they are able to formulate a plan to meet their goals, and they enjoy richer and better marriages.

THE MISSION

I’m out to save marriages, one husband at a time. These days, marriage isn’t valued enough. Nearly everyday, the newspapers report on a divorce or separation of a celebrity. And it’s all taken in stride. I support marriage, and I support husbands and wives. Marriage isn’t always a smooth ride, but, when you get it right, it’s the best ride of your life. By helping people to understand that they can strengthen marriage they’ll see that they don’t have to run when the going gets tough.

YOU CAN HELP

Join the Secrets of Married Men Community. Discover the thoughts and experiences of married individuals, as well as marriage saving tips, through my Periodic Newsletters. Join my Discussion Forum, to tell your stories. My first book, The Secrets of Happily Married Men has already been written—but I may use your insights and stories for my next book.